The Two Things You Are Thinking That Get In Your Way Every Day
Hey there! Today, we are talking about how to shift your thinking so that you get better results…you are probably gonna be surprised…
There are a couple of little phrases that creep their way into all of our heads at one point or another, and I'm telling you—they can have a serious impact on your confidence!
I KNOW THIS / THAT
The first one I want to talk about is three little words… "I know this" or "I know that".
If you try to tell me that you never say this, then I'm gonna call you on it my friend because ALL of us are guilty of doing this.
You know what I mean. Those little words that pop into your head whenever you hear something that might have been heard before.
Or it could be a strategy that you know about—and most likely have never implemented—or you did, and it didn't work for you.
Notice that distinction there? It didn't work FOR YOU…?
Think for a little second what this means.
Just by thinking these three little words, you are shutting down any learning that you could have through the experience. You are completely disregarding anything that the person might be saying after you think "I know this".
You are stopping your mind (and more importantly, your sub-conscious!) from gleaning an insight that just might create the AHA moment that you really need to create a breakthrough in your business (or your life).
You think that what they are telling you is old news, or not valuable, or just plain doesn't work…because you don't think it's new.
It's also a sign that you don't think you need to learn. That you've got all the answers.
Have all the answers I mean?
Hmm… I didn't think so. What do you think it does to your confidence when you are constantly assuming that you have all the answers and then not getting the results?
Humility is absolutely a key to learning and development…to being willing to change and shift how you think.
You see—sometimes one person might be telling you something that you know in detail and have tried and maybe you got a result from it, or maybe you didn't, but that doesn't mean that it isn't a valuable strategy!
You might just need to try it again (and again and again…) to get the results going. Or maybe you need to do it at a different time, when you've got more experience under your belt (like now!).
I reckon this comes from our need to BE the expert in all the things. We think that if we don't have all the answers, then somehow we aren't worthy to help others or give advice.
What do you think would happen if you let yourself be a bit vulnerable for a change? What does vulnerable even mean to you?
Let me tell you that hands down, THE most powerful thing I learnt in my career was to say "I don't know." When somebody asked me a question that I didn't know the answer to, I would say, "You know what? I don't know the answer to that but I can find out."
Here’s a challenge.
Try this instead—when the words "I know this” or “I know that" pop into your head, I want you to challenge yourself to follow it up with “I wonder what new things I can learn…” and see what sort of inspiration comes.
So the second phrase that I know you are thinking every day is "I can't…"
"I can't find the time"
"I can't get engagement in my business"
"I can't figure that out"
"I can't go live because I'm terrible"
"I can't lose weight"
"I can't understand why she did that"
You know what I'm talking about.
Actually, I feel exactly the same about "should"! (But let's not get side-tracked…)
When you say "I can't," you are copping out on yourself incredibly. You are telling yourself, and your subconscious, that you don't believe in yourself. That it is impossible for you to do or achieve that thing.
You have a choice in everything that you do. So when you say I can't, you are actually making a choice to not do or achieve that thing.
Another way to think about this is by replacing the word "can't" with the word "won't". I heard Marie Forleo say this once and I absolutely love it.
Let's see what that does with the phrases that we started with above.
"I won't find the time"
"I won't get engagement in my business"
"I won't figure that out"
"I won't go live because I'm terrible"
"I won't lose weight"
"I won't understand why she did that"
It puts a completely different spin on things, doesn't it?
How does it feel hearing those statements like that?
See, when you use words like “I can't,” you take your power away. You actually do have the power to choose what you do and how you react and, with some practice, how you feel about every situation you find yourself in.
It's about tapping into that well of strength inside you and making conscious choices.
Do you think you can do that?
What is one thing that you are going to stop saying “I can't” about? What can you choose to take control back on and choose to take a different, deliberate action on?
And that is what I have for you today—two things that you are thinking that are getting in your way every single day. There are probably more of them—I bet you can find some and let me know!
Gorgeous ladies, I am super grateful that you joined me today and I hope that you have taken away a nugget of thought-provoking goodness.
I’d like to invite you to have a Biz Growth Breakthrough session with me. I still have a few available slots next week. It’s going to take 30 to 45 minutes and we will nail down a three-step strategy you can follow to level up your business. (Did I mention that it’s not gonna cost you a thing? Awesome!)
‘Til next week!