Resistance And What It Is Doing To Your Progress In Your Business…
Resistance. This tiny word encompasses so much, and I absolutely guarantee you that this is something showing up in your business. Today’s post is all about how you can start “getting out of your own way” in your business.
We are so good at helping others with "well-meaning advice" about what they 'should' do to overcome that challenge that they are facing.
Or watching from a lovely safe distance while people dither around just not doing the THING that they need to do to move forward.
But the reality is that it is something that affects all of us.
Every time we try to do something new or a task, something that always generates a big result, or which actually moves us forward towards a goal or even your dream life, resistance is something that shows up.
Let me give you some examples of what I'm talking about and you tell me which ones are ringing true for you:
Procrastination - putting off something that is important in favour of “urgent” or irrelevant things. This is the first major way that resistance shows up in your business.
I can put my hand up for this one. 100%!
There’s this thing that you know you need to be doing… and sometimes (...or often…) it’s the one last thing that will put you into action.
Maybe you’ve recorded your video but haven’t sent it out to your list. Maybe you’ve written the blog but you haven’t posted it on your website.
All those little things we tend to put off are the things that are actually going to move us to get results.
Can you relate?
Usually you can be found tinkering with administrative details in your business rather than taking the important actions and THAT my friend is procrastination.
Self-doubt - perhaps this shows up as doubt of your skills, experience, or ability to create value for your clients.
Or maybe you have a subconscious belief that you can’t do something, when in fact you haven’t even tried.
Endless consumption of other people's content and courses to 'learn new skills' that you 'need' to progress.
Sometimes we need inspiration before we can create our content. But sometimes it stops us from creating our original content or it scares us and makes us belief that we’re never going to be good enough like the thought leaders we’re following.
Fear of doing a particular thing that you need to do to achieve your goals. You know what to do to build your Facebook profile and raise your visibility, but you are scared to do it. Resistance amplifies that fear.
Daydreaming is actually a massive form of resistance at play.
Do you find yourself dreaming ‘what could be’? Dreaming about your business or your life and what it would look like when you generated this result?
We may say that it is us putting ourselves to the universe and what we want to achieve. But sometimes, it can be a form or resistance because we’re spending excessive time mapping our dream or vision.
Getting stuck doing your non-creative work—you know, the unimportant admin that gets in the way! Instead of writing your email for your clients, you spend much time on other things like managing your accounts.
These are the tasks that you can pay someone to do for you. Those tasks that can be done without the need for your specific input so you can focus on doing more important stuff.
Indecision - struggling to make a decision that you know is going to move you forward. Maybe you can’t decide exactly who your ideal client is, what sort of business you are going to do. That is a form of resistance. Instead, you should take action and make changes as necessary as you go along.
First up—and this is important—THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU!
We ALL struggle with this and there is one heck of a good reason why.
So what is resistance really?
Your brain is hardwired to protect you, and that includes naturally resisting change that moves you towards something that is different to what you have now.
Usually, it is something that matters, whether it be forming new habits in health and wellness goals, working on a new project, changing the direction of your business to gain greater results—your brain will follow a deeply ingrained path to move you away from perceived discomfort.
It takes super deliberate and determined focus and action to shift your thinking to a space of action and resiliency.
SOME SIMPLE STRATEGIES FOR OVERCOMING RESISTANCE:
1. Recognise that it is there.
What does resistance look like for you? Do you know what it feels like when it is resistance getting in your way?
It's important to be able to recognise when you are struggling with it so that you can put things in place to get past it.
For me, it is usually procrastinating doing something that is going to put me out there…
Or something that I know is going to produce a result, avoiding doing a 'thing' that I find boring or that drains my energy…
Or planning too many things and letting some of the important things fall too far down that priority list for the day.
2. Figure out why it is there.
Do you know why you are avoiding the 'thing'? What are the results that you are expecting to achieve and what change will that bring for you?
What will you have to do differently or what expectations will you have created?
Are you feeling fear? Of getting it done, of the results it might bring, of success?
Fear is not always rational and it is natural to fear the unknown—especially when you are hard-wired to resist discomfort!
Perhaps you are you just avoiding something that drains you of energy.
Explore that a little.
Are you worried about what people will think? Why are you worried about that? Does it really matter?
It is important to do some reflection on what is holding you back so that you can take action in the most effective way.
I find that journaling my reflections is helpful. Talking through with my coach is also a great way to get to the bottom of what is really bothering me.
3. What is your action?
This isn't always about "feeling the fear and doing it anyway".
Sometimes you need to listen to what is stopping you.
Maybe it's not the right timing. Maybe you are not feeling that the thing is in line with how you want to show up in your business.
So make sure you listen to what is going on.
Sometimes for me, it’s about spending some time re-energising me.
I'm an introvert, so while I have no problem putting myself out there, it takes a lot of energy...
If I'm trying to do that when I'm completely depleted, then I'm not going to add value anyway.
And sometimes you do just need to find a way to rip the bandaid off and get the thing done but think outside the box.
Do you need to bring a business bestie in to help you get over the line, do it together or have a mini-challenge, maybe even with your clients?
Be what and who you need to be for yourself too.
You TOLD me that focus and how to create consistent income were your number one challenges—so let's dive into that with some straight forward ways to get your booty into action to overcome them!
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